I Believe

Okay, so I have decided again that I shall use the aid of the powers of the universe and my own strong belief and positivity.

Miracles have a way of happening to those who believe in them. And I am a woman who certainly believes.

Then why are we wasting time? Let's start our belief/positive energy session.

Repeat after me:

She will not come and work here.

She will not come and work here.

She will not come and work here.

She will not come and work here.

She will not come and work here.

And now repeat with me once again:

She will stay away from my path and life.

She will stay away from my path and life.

She will stay away from my path and life.

She will stay away from my path and life.

She will stay away from my path and life.

And now:

I will get a PHD.

I will get a PHD.

I will get a PHD.

I will get a PHD.

I will get a PHD.

I WILL get a PHD.

And finally:

All my dreams will come true.

All my dreams WILL come true.

All my dreams WILL definitely come true.

All my dreams WILL most definitely come true.

All my dreams WILL most definitely come true VERY SOON.

Till we meet again,
Sedeso

Wanted: Best Friend

There are ads for everything from brooms, to dog food, babysitting, cars, and even partners but not best-friends. This is how the ad might go:

Wanted:

Best friend for life, cute-looking, medium height and weight, open-minded, very accepting, good manners, knowledgeable about etiquette, has her own fashion style, forever optimistic, supportive of loved ones, never judgemental, humble, chic, good secret keeper, an intellectual, would join a book club, enjoys traveling and good restaurants, never jealous, always has her bestie's best interest at heart, would never consider stealing or even coming close to her bestie's man, always goes dutch, would never steal her bestie's thunder, enjoys afternoon tea at the Ritz, adores London, neat, fun and dedicated, always there at the drop of a hat, accepts criticism sportily and gives advice kindly, lover her friends.

Till we meet again,
Sedeso

Mind explosion

Okay, so I need to express myself if only in a few lines otherwise I shall explode.

First things first: Bondiyah has become an even bigger-shot than what she was. I look back at the long-lost (best) friendship and the only thing on my mind is WHAT IF?

This is the worst kind of question to be tortured with. What if I acted differently? What if I kept better my then best-friend's secret? What if I had been more careful? Why am I so bad in friendships.

It's long gone now and every step in this life is meant to be. Why was this so hard to get over? And I wonder if she is still besties with that Blonde?

One answer is that Bondiyah was truly the bestest friend I could ever want, in 99% of every way. Because of her I got so used to a certain standard of life, living and expectations and settling for anything less is unacceptable.  Having rich friends kinda messes you up.

I wonder when will this obsession come to an end? Sooner than later I hope [Insert FFWD 2009: Oh babe, if you only knew].

Pause

Pause

A breath of fresh air and a mood lightener

How adorable is McDreamy and his real-life family?

Okay, now instead of wining and depressing myself even more I shall use all the help of positivity and the powers of the earth and meditate and wish and wish and keep on wishing until that girl goes and works elsewhere. I will not wish ill upon her. Neither will I wish her any sort of bad luck. I will only wish that GOD separates her path in life from mine vastly. I've had too much misery inflicted upon me in the past. I believe a better future for me requires her in faraway land and in no way competing with me.

There, now I feel much much better.
Till we meet again,
Sedeso

The after-life

What happens the moment one dies? How soon do the angels of Questioning approach a soul after the body's death? What is Barzakh and how scary is it? Is it true that we pray on a dead body to ease it's entrance to this Barzakh place? What else can a person do to have (a peaceful departure)? So many questions in my mind, after I was told about that Sudanese guy Essam's sudden death in his sleep. Dear Lord, in you we take refuge. 


On another note, I took an online blogthing test about how men see me and guess what my results were:

Men See You As Choosy
Men notice you light years before you notice them
You take a selective approach to dating, and you can afford to be picky
You aren't looking for a quick flirt - but a memorable encounter
It may take men a while to ask you out, but it's worth the wait <===== I guess it's all true.


Till we meet again,
Sedeso

No more

At this moment in time, if I could change 1 thing about the world right now, then I would abolish the high class and low class and ensure everyone belongs to the middle class.

My heart sinks everytime I see the cleaners at work and realize they work for 12 hours a day and get paid peanuts.

I don't want to see any more poor people in this world.

Till we meet again,
Sedeso

The Ram

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The RAM qualities (the ones I agree with):

1) She'll always need that hero of her dreams to yearn for in her heart.

2) The Aries girl will open her own doors. Shell also put on her own coat, fight her own battles, pull out her own chair, hail her taxi and light her cigarette without any masculine help. Doing it herself is, to her, the fastest way to get it done.

3) The Mars girl is determined to take the lead, to be the first to move to action, and that includes the action of making the first advance in romance.

4) I have a lot in common with Scarlett O'hara.

Scarlett O'Hara is the very epitome of the Mars-ruled

Aries female. Like Scarlett, the Aries girl will gather every available male for a hundred miles around to her feet, while her willful heart yearns for the one man she can't have for one reason or another. Like Scarlett, the Mars woman can quickly adapt for survival if necessary, without whimpering. Both the O'Hara and the Aries characters are tough enough to defy convention, face an advancing army, or even shoot a man through the head with icy calmness, : if he threatens her loved ones.

Never was Scarlett more Mars-like than when she was starving, alone and friendless, and without waiting for a man to come to the rescue, she clenched her fist toward heaven and shouted, "I'll survive this . . . and when I do, I'll never be hungry again ... If I have to lie, cheat, steal i or kill-as God is my witness, I'll never be hungry again!" Much later, her emotions shattered, her beloved child dead and the one man she loved about to walk out of her life, this typical Aries woman was still able to say, "I'll think of some way to get him back. There's never been a man I couldn't get, once I set my mind on him. . . . After all, tomorrow is another day."

Yes, Scarlett O'Hara creates a vivid image of the first \ Sun sign of the zodiac, with all the Mars strength and ability to bounce back after tragedy; able to play the female role to the hilt, with fluttering lashes and a well-timed tear, but just as able to take over a man's job when the men aren't around.

A careful study of Scarlett's character can give you an excellent understanding of what you're in for with an Aries woman-and naturally, also the rewards you can look forward to after you've been brave enough to claim her. Her aggressive drive may be hard to take, but her shining optimism and faith in tomorrow can be mighty uplifting.

Miracles have a way of happening to those who believe in them

Till we meet again,

Sedeso

Doctors ethics

The Hippocratic Oath:

Original, translated from Greek.
“ I swear by Apollo, Æsculapius, Hygieia, and Panacea, and I take to witness all the gods, all the goddesses, to keep according to my ability and my judgment, the following Oath.
To consider dear to me as my parents him who taught me this art; to live in common with him and if necessary to share my goods with him; To look upon his children as my own brothers, to teach them this art if they so desire without fee or written promise; to impart to my sons and the sons of the master who taught me and the disciples who have enrolled themselves and have agreed to the rules of the profession, but to these alone the precepts and the instruction.
I will prescribe regimens for the good of my patients according to my ability and my judgment and never do harm to anyone.
To please no one will I prescribe a deadly drug nor give advice which may cause his death.
Nor will I give a woman a pessary to procure abortion.
But I will preserve the purity of my life and my arts.
I will not cut for stone, even for patients in whom the disease is manifest; I will leave this operation to be performed by practitioners, specialists in this art.
In every house where I come I will enter only for the good of my patients, keeping myself far from all intentional ill-doing and all seduction and especially from the pleasures of love with women or with men, be they free or slaves.
All that may come to my knowledge in the exercise of my profession or in daily commerce with men, which ought not to be spread abroad, I will keep secret and will never reveal.
If I keep this oath faithfully, may I enjoy my life and practice my art, respected by all men and in all times; but if I swerve from it or violate it, may the reverse be my lot.

If this shows anything, it is that the morals and ethics of medics have been an important issue since the days of the ancient greeks.

I am sad to admit that more and more doctors are forgetting those values. What happened to me today was frightening. My dentist crossed the line by 2 inches with me and I cringe at the thought. He started by telling me how beautiful I was, moved on to describing my lips, and then how fit I was. Some people are just sleazy and you cannot help it. I've spoken to 2 friends about it and got 2 different replies.

Reply 1: Are you stupid? How could you let him get away with that? From the little that you've told me he seems like an expert in this? This is called harrasment.  You should do something. If I were you, I'd complain about him to management and make sure he gets fired.

Reply 2: So what? Did you not realize by now that most men are sleazy nowadays? If you want to get something done you will need to kiss ass and really suck up to them. I mean, it's not like he's locked his door and turned the lights off and intended raping you. This is harmless as long as he doesn't touch you inappropriately. Why not next time just mention that you're engaged and hopefully he'll tone down the flirting.

 
What bothered me most is that I always dress decently and rarely provocatively.  (so I've been told plentiful). Then why did he dare and behave in such a way with me?

My decision, I shall inform you about in another post.

Till we meet again,
Sedeso

The rules

1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
2. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
3. If you have ANY doubt in your mind about a man's character, leave him alone.
4. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
5. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.
6. Don't force an attraction.
7. Slower is better.
8. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
9. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve, then heck no you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
10. Have faith in God regarding your relationship, but don't let faith make you stupid. God does things decent and in order.
11. Don't settle.
12. If you feel like he is stringing you along... he probably is.
13. If he keeps changing his mind about the relationship-take that as a BIG sign that he is unstable. Do you really want to be with a man like that?
14. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
15. Honorable men take care of their business and aren't involved in a whole lot of mess.
16. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
17. There's only one 'reason' a man dumps you; he doesn't want you.
18. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
19. You really do have to kiss a few frogs before finding the prince.
20. Always put yourself and your happiness first.
21. Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
22. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
23. Like from the show, "Sex and the City", if he doesn't call, he just isn't that interested.

24. Be honest and up-front.
25. Know when to cut the cord, don't be strung along.
26. Don't fall for the "I'm confused role". Remove yourself from the situation to let him figure things out (but don't wait for him, move on.)
27. If you want to have a clue as to how he will treat you, watch how he treats the WOMEN in his family (not just mom).
28. There's more than physical abuse, there's emotional and mental abuse. If he causes any of them... flee.
29. You cannot change a man's behaviors. Change comes from within.
30. Don't let him place rules on you that he is not willing to follow himself -- double-standard.
31. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job.
32. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more, nothing less.
33. Demand respect and if he can't give it, he can't have you!
34. Don't compete with other women, but be aware that men are attracted to what they see.
35. If you think he is cheating, he probably is. Confront him right away and if you feel he's lying, let him go.
36. Actions speak louder than words.
37. Never let a man define who you are.
38. Never rely on a man for compliments; look to yourself for that.
39. Never borrow someone else's man!!!
40. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
41. Just because he says he loves you, doesn't mean that he won't hurt you and it doesn't mean that you are meant to be with him.
42. To use painful hard-won wisdom: 'get it right' the next time.
43.Know that you deserve to be the number one person in the life of the #1 person in your life.
44. Love is a VERB.
45. Learn to give up your lifelong task of trying to make someone unavailable- available, someone ungiving- giving, and someone unloving- loving.
46. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
47. All men are NOT dogs.
48. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two way street.
49. If you don't love self...you can't love anyone else.
50. You cannot mend someone else's broken heart
51. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage...deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
52. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
53. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
54. NEVER give more in a relationship than you are getting out of it.
55. Never become your man's "therapist".
56. When actions and words conflict, believe the actions. Respond to the actions.
57. A real healthy relationship requires two people. One person can mend it, but it takes two to make it work.
58. Don't fall for the "I'm not the loving type"...when a man loves you there is nothing in this world (within reason) that he wouldn't do for you.
59. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always knows where you are, and you're always readily available to him... he takes it for granted.
60. Give him his space...let him go out with his boys, don't pressure him to spend time with you. You cant force a man to hang out with you.
61. If you wouldn't allow your daughter to be with him you shouldn't.
62. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
63. Never move into his mother's house.
64. Provide financially for yourself and don't depend on anyone.
65. Never co-sign for a man.
66. Never believe you have the perfect guy and he is so innocent.
67. Never spoil your man; let him spoil you.
68. Never let a man mess up your credit.
69. When it's time to let go, let go.
70. Good men should be treated like good men.
71. Don't play games.
72. You can't make a whore into a housewife - or a husband.
73. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him on your radar but get to know others.
74. Compatibility in terms of educational attainment, values, beliefs, personal and career goals, and socioeconomic status, are important.
75. Never date a guy who wears colored contacts
76. Never believe a man who says "that's just my baby momma." You can be sure... there'll be drama.
77. Never believe a man that tells you he wants to be with you, while he's with someone else. If he wanted to be with you, he would make it happen... more sooner than later.
78. Don't be a man's doormat! Make him open the door for you, because a real man would do this on his own.
79. Dealing with a married man, most likely won't work out in your favor.
80. There is someone out there worthy to be in your life, let out the trash so he can come in.

Learn to live by them

Till we meet again,
Sedeso