I passed by another work section to remind them of a pending task. I tend to walk to other colleagues just to get my body moving and blood flowing instead of remaining at the office desk all day long.
I found my colleague, chatted to her and just as I was about to leave, she asked me: "How's it going with your husband?"
So I gave her a brief:" Some days it's up other days it down and miserable".
She continued asking and being forceful in her questioning:
"So which professional are you seeing"
"Is she a psychiatrist"
"Babe you should consider a divorce"
"You should go see this doctor"
"Your husband should get medicated"
"You shouldn't tolerate any of this"
The more she went on the more uncomfortable I felt. I didn't know how to end the conversation and found myself trying to justify why I am still in this marriage. I kept defending my husband and choices. Serves me right for opening my mouth in the first place. This is what happens when we allow others into our lives and personal matters. They always want to know more and be forceful with their opinions.
Now, remember I didn't ask her for any help this time, nor did I request her opinion. But, since I opened my mouth and shared a lot last time, she understood it as a green light to get involved in something she knows NOTHING about.
And this morning, I saw her walking into the building from afar and just ran away to avoid her.
I am not sure how to answer the next time she asks too many detailed questions. Maybe I will go quiet or just say: "My therapist requested me not to discuss it with anyone anymore and I promised I won't".
Yep. That's a good answer for now until I develop the strength and cunningness to stop others from getting too involved. How does one stop others without creating sensitivities?
Till we meet again,
Sedeso
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