Every Woman Should

Thank you Fastidious Babe for sharing this wonderful article with us.By 30, you should have:
1. One old boyfriend you can imagine going back to and one who reminds you of how far you’ve come.
2. A decent piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in your family.
3. Something perfect to wear if the employer or man of your dreams wants to see you in an hour.
4. A purse, a suitcase and an umbrella you’re not ashamed to be seen carrying.
5. A youth you’re content to move beyond.
6. A past juicy enough that you’re looking forward to retelling it in your old age.
7. The realization that you are actually going to have an old age—and some money set aside to help fund it.
8. An e-mail address, a voice mailbox and a bank account—all of which nobody has access to but you.
9. A résumé that is not even the slightest bit padded.
10. One friend who always makes you laugh and one who lets you cry.
11. A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill and a black lace bra.
12. Something ridiculously expensive that you bought for yourself, just because you deserve it.
13. The belief that you deserve it.
14. A skin-care regimen, an exercise routine and a plan for dealing with those few other facets of life that don’t get better after 30.
15. A solid start on a satisfying career, a satisfying relationship and all those other facets of life that do get better.

By 30, you should know:

16. How to fall in love without losing yourself.
17. How you feel about having kids.
18. How to quit a job, break up with a man and confront a friend without ruining the friendship.
19. When to try harder and when to walk away.
20. How to kiss in a way that communicates perfectly what you would and wouldn’t like to happen next.
21. The names of: the secretary of state, your great-grandmother and the best tailor in town.
22. How to live alone, even if you don’t like to.
23. How to take control of your own birthday.
24. That you can’t change the length of your calves, the width of your hips or the nature of your parents.
25. That your childhood may not have been perfect, but it’s over.
26. What you would and wouldn’t do for money or love.
27. That nobody gets away with smoking, drinking, doing drugs or not flossing for very long.
28. Who you can trust, who you can’t and why you shouldn’t take it personally.
29. Not to apologize for something that isn’t your fault.
30. Why they say life begins at 30.

By Pamela Redmond Satran


Till we meet again,
Sedeso

Money Business

I love him. This is a fact.

He loves me. Another fact.

He loves me more now than he did when we first got together. Now, this I know for sure.

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After yesterday's post, I asked my sibling to keep me company and we went to watch "My Sister's Keeper" at the movies. He called many times and I ignored him. I was angry, so angry at him for neglecting me somehow.

I answered his third phone call and informed him of my whereabouts as per usual.

He closed the phone.

The movie ended and I was on the verge of exploding. So I gave my sibling some cash and asked her to go home in a cab.

I left in a hurry and drove all the way to el capitalo. I reached the outskirts of el capitalo and gave him a call. There was no reply. I tried again. No reply. I texted. Again, no reply. It was past midnight. All the malls were either closed or about to. I called my friends to ask for directions and they called me NUTS for randomly popping by their city.

The plan was to surprise him but it seems like he wanted to surprise me. Really??? He sounded genuine but today I have doubts (which usually ends up being paranoia on my side).

He came with his niggaz apparently to congratulate the tycoon then he was planning on seeing me. There are a million and one ways in which I can dissect this sentence and call him a liar. But I won't, mainly because right now I am not in the sanest of all minds to act without guidance or take a decision that could affect the long-term of this relationship.

He loves me yes. I want his love to grow deeper and stronger. But something has made me cringe since yesterday. He opened up the subject of money once more, dissected my spendings and savings, and made me feel like a nobody. He even tried to offer me some cash but of course, I refused it vehemently. I love him for who he is not for his money.

I feel so belittled now. And I blame him for making me feel like this.

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Till we meet again,
Sedeso

Is this Love......

I don't know what is happening to me, or to my current relationship. It's a mixture of fear, confusion, helplessness, and hopefulness.

To anyone, this may seem as stable and ideal as a relationship can be. Yet, I cannot help but want more and want something different. I want to be madly, deeply in love with him. I want this love to consume me, I want it to take over my life and shake my very existence to its core.

Does that feeling of intense love change as you grow older? Does it intensify or is it meant to quiet down?

Is it love, obsession? Or is that infatuation?

Is love meant to hurt this much?

And why I am in constant fear of a future without him?

I want him to be mine, all mine. I want him to dislike all other females and only have eyes for me. Ukh gosh so possessive of me. Hmm, this may mean that I should have eyes only for him. Well, he should not worry since I love him way too much for a sanely balanced 28-year-old. I admit that at times, I get angry when he's too busy to answer my phone calls, that I contemplate the thought of having a backup plan. But these thoughts come for a split of a second only and detour my head as quickly for many reasons: 1) I am not a player, never have been and never will be. It just goes against all my morals, 2) I love him too much to do this, and 3) He is a good person, a decent man who deserves complete and utter loyalty.

There, I vented on the blog and I feel a bit better. All I have to do is let him call me more than I call him.

Some vintage inspo.
Till we meet again,
Sedeso

"Quote" from : http://steviwonderwoman.blogspot.com/
See, men are not fish. Once you use bait and hook a fish, the task is complete ... you go home lol. You can hook a man, but he is not forced to stay once he takes the bait. You're left feeling used and hopeless. All you can do is run your own race and have some self-respect. Find comfort and peace in the fact that no one can ever be you. Dig deep to find security in your beauty ladies

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Her Honour

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A strong start to the Restraining Month this year when it comes to all the sitcoms and drama. Seems like the common theme this year is sex, extra-marital affairs, losing one's virginity and being killed for the loss of this honour.

To me, this honour means nothing. What matters to me the most is being devoted to one's partner. Faithfulness, over and over and over again.

Till we meet again,

Sedeso

Certain Doubts

I love him. I want to be with him. But there's a small part of me that is worried about many things: his stinginess, his family and their ideas and whether they will accept me or not, his faithfulness in the long term, losing my figure once I have kids, my current financial status and I am not sure what else. Are those normal worries?

My therapist says that whatever we worry about the most ends up becoming a reality <=== true, its the law of attraction. We think it, we make it happen.

My therapist says I am bored with the relationship because it stopped being a challenge. <=== This could be true since I've always had dramatic relationships and I am not sure how to deal with a stable, good relationship.

My therapist says not to put high hopes on this man because I could end up hating him one day <==== Again, this could be true because nobody can predict the future.

But I do not want to think in a negative way. I am 28 years old. I finally found someone decent enough who is so worth committing to. Do men get any better than him? I do not think so. I have never witnessed it. I have lowered my standards alot and have accepted alot (I mean alot) of the things in him that would have put me off before. 

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I loved this dress and will use it as inspiration for my next gown. I wonder what the outcome will be like.


Till we meet again,
Sedeso

Untwistable knot

Stress got the best of me. I've been in pain for the past 4 days, unable to even breathe properly. It feels like my ribcage has collapsed on my lungs and breathing has become very painful. 3 shots and a voltarin injection wouldn't keep the pain away. The pain has not ceased, and tonight I will get a scan to rule out appenditis, gall bladder disease or kidney stones.

I've known all along though that this was a pschological case and that the huge muscular knot I felt was something deep down that reflected anger, worry and revenge according to my therapist since every organs signifies an intense feeling.

I love him. I am also in love with him. He is a good man. We're good for each other. Neither of us is perfect, and if anything, I love his imperfections. I love him the way he is and wouldn't change a thing about him. What was my life like before I decided to get involved with him? A whirlwind of events, sleepless nights and me not being myself.
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Till we meet again,
Sedeso