The Ugly Truth

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Sometimes the universe wants to show us an ugliness that exists within us. This is what happened to me last night. Sweetest yet most unstable N behaved with me in a way that I behave with The One. The only difference is that I am so annoyed with her that I am considering cutting her off for good whereas The One is still with me and obviously still in love with me.

The incident was really stupid. She kept on going on and on and on about men and the lack of them and the quality of them. She got on my nerves so to get rid of her, I told her fine, I'll give your number to a friend of a friend and if you guys hit it off then great, if not you have nothing to lose. I told The One and he advised me against it knowing how cuckoo and unstable she is. 2 days onwards, I am accused of low character because I thought of giving out her number to a complete stranger. So now I am judged on my thoughts and not my actions.

And that's when it hit me. I do this with The One a lot. He says things to test the water or out of boredom and silliness and I argue with him about it a few days later.

I do this a lot, an average of about once every 3 weeks. Nobody is perfect, and we must love one another despite our flaws. And maybe, just maybe The One does love me indeed. He is still with me despite all my mad actions and annoying habits so he must love me. So does this mean he shows his love through his actions?

What life lesson should I be learning? To be grateful for the little that I have with him because it is better than what many married couples have? Or should I be more patient with others and not take everything they say too seriously?

I wonder if this instability in me is what is stopping me from getting married?

Okay, so let's assume I was married and this incident happened with my sister-in-law, I wouldn't cut her off of course because I love my husband and this may lead me to lose him. I'd just let it pass and try to get my annoyance out in any other way but not through my husband of course.

Gosh, being a grown-up is so complicated.
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Till we meet again,
Sedeso

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umm. that's real, lmbo . "making it work" does require some flexibility and some compromise. even though the phrase "making it work" is supposed to be a positive one, it often means biting your tongue and dealing with certain things that you don't want to i.e. disrespect, lying, cheating, etc . when I say 'dealing with', i don't mean tolerate ... i mean addressing, talking about, facing the issue. when it comes to making a relationship last, there will always be bumps in the road. people disrespect other people all the time, but you just have to use your better judgment and decide what is 'fixable'. contrary to popular belief, a lot of the time ... boyfriends don't cheat with the intention of hurting their girl. nevertheless, they may not be mature enough or love you enough to choose better judgment.

having a successful relationship is about knowing what you want. it's about knowing what you will and will not tolerate. some people can't tolerate cheating. some people can't tolerate being lied to. some people can't tolerate a loudmouth. some cant tolerate a bad kisser. so you should never feel bad about leaving a relationship. keep it 100 with the person you're dating about what you want, and if they can't honor that .. perhaps you aren't meant to be. God has somebody out there for everyone, but it'll still take work regardless. pray to God for wisdom and clarity . "love" is not letting someone walk all over you and hurt you because chances are that they don't love you in the same capacity. being in a mutual, [mature] love means that the two people are working as hard as they can to keep the relationship healthy & happy.

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